Ten questions we need to ask ourselves
to achieve personal development
The purpose or meaning of life is an old philosophical question for which much has been written and spoke. Why are we here? What are we; Where do we come from? What is our purpose? What is important in life?
Searching and finding meaning are fundamental elements of our personal development. Many times, this needs to seek and give meaning arises from the need to give meaning, content, and purpose to what happens to us but also to discover the one and ultimate purpose we can have as people thinking with consciousness, reflection, and judgment. It can be a support to overcome difficulties and adversity, exceed our limits, and possibly overcome emotional gaps or feelings of frustration, resignation, and boredom.
A philosophical question
The purpose of life, beyond a philosophical question, can be a personal existential agony to give meaning, content, purpose, and value to our existence. Each of us has found or even created our meaning (life story), our purpose.
During life, we may forget the mission we have undertaken to carry out or even somewhere in the course of life to neglect any of our priorities, to overtake them by being carried away by insignificant issues of daily life (obligations, misunderstandings, survival routines, or combating boredom in any convenient way). However, it is never too late to discover what the real meaning of life is!
The following 10 questions are intended to help you determine what your personal goal is for achieving your happiness:
♦What do you think are the most special and important gifts you have as a person? Think of at least five such gifts.
♦What do you like to do less? What makes you tired or what makes you hurt?
♦If there was no limit and you knew you could only succeed, who would you like to be, what would you like to do, what would you like to have to feel inner fullness, satisfaction, peace?
♦What usually makes you smile?
♦Imagine that you are a child and that you travel mentally into your future with the imagination, optimism, and confidence of a child. What dreams would you like to fulfill? How do you imagine your life?
♦Now imagine that you are 80 years old and that you look at your past with the wisdom and knowledge of a wise old man. What do you feel proud of for what you have done so far, offered to yourself and others? What is it that you regret? What backlog do you think you failed to handle? Which of your actions would you change for which you feel bad or even remorseful and which not?
♦Imagine that the people you love and respect the most talk about you. What positive things would you like them to say about you, your contribution, your achievements, your character, your personality? How would you like to be remembered? Do you think that there are things you need to do to meet their expectations, their demands, to be respected and loved as much as you would like?
♦Do you think you have room for self-improvement? What would you like to change in your way of thinking, in the way you manage situations, in the way you act, react, think & act?
♦Have you done everything to feel that you are a complete human being and if not, how do you think you could achieve that?
♦Are you the person you admire? If you are not, what do you think you could do to reach a high point of self-esteem & self-respect?
The priorities and the real purpose of life
These fundamental questions bring us face to face with ourselves, but also with our responsibilities for what we did not do, for what we omitted, or for what we should not have done, and that led us to personal shipwrecks and failures. Many times, this is the most tragic out of ignorance!
In conclusion, many times our life is routed by us mainly (by our own will, choice, will, decision), or indirectly by others (through daily intercourse and osmosis with others) in such a way and such frantic rhythms and speeds so that many times we do not manage to understand in depth what are our priorities, our ultimate real purpose, goal, pursuit, and vision. We shape our self-image based on our profession, education, and the various other roles we take on in the context of society. Nevertheless, beyond whatever roles characterize us, there is something deeper within us, the invincible and inevitable existential need for happiness, and satisfaction of fulfillment of desires, goals, self-affirmation, and self-realization.
Try to answer the 10 questions
However, the most important thing of all is to deal with ourselves and to look for ways for its spiritual evolution and progress. Eric Hoffer, an American writer, and philosopher said, “The end comes when we stop talking to ourselves. It is the end of real thinking and the beginning of ultimate loneliness”.
Try to answer the above questions honestly without censoring your true feelings because the key is to know who we are, what we seek, and in this way, we will be able to love ourselves and as Oscar Wilde said, “it is the beginning of a love that will last a lifetime”.