Five questions you would like to ask a psychologist
All of us at some point have in mind questions we would like to ask a psychologist, whether we attend regular sessions or plan to visit one. As much as the list of possible questions in our mind seems endless, some specific ones are usually at the top of the list. Those are a little more personal. That when we talk to others we close in a locked drawer and then we pretend that the key is lost.
1.Am I the only one who feels this way?
The reason you want to ask this question is the deepest need for a negative answer. It is common to feel that you are magnifying issues and circumstances. How you are overly stressed or how some situations affect you to a greater degree than you would like. So, the moments when you wonder if you are the only person on earth who is tormented by these issues, who reacts in such a way, and who feels pain, you also feel the need to receive the confirmation that other people share the same feelings as you, to a greater or lesser degree.
2.Will I ever overcome what hinders my development?
They say that the first step towards substantial change is to realize the factors that prevent you from living the life you dream of. Although the ideal varies from person to person, many times a better life can take the form of a beautiful relationship that brings balance to your life, a job that offers financial comfort, greater satisfaction, and social prestige, or the adoption of a lifestyle and of a worldview that suits you best and fills you with joy. To change, however, you must actually believe that you can do it and an expert can guide you so that you find within yourself the strength you need to believe that in the end, you will succeed.
3.Will I find true love?
For better or worse, our lives are full of challenges and difficult situations from which most of the time we come out wiser and more mature. When it comes to career issues, things seem much clearer as there are always specific methods and tactics that can lead to achieving some goals. In matters of the heart, however, things get complicated. Therefore, it is common for us to wonder if there is a suitable person out there who can give us happiness, looking for ways to bring the right person to us faster than we hoped.
4.For how long should I do psychotherapy?
The amount of time you need to work with yourself and the mental health professional you choose varies from person to person, depending on the needs, symptoms, and reasons that led you there. This period can last from a few weeks and a few months to some years. Our need to get an answer to this question however is essentially linked to our desire to turn an hourglass that once emptied; we will be an improved version of ourselves.
5.Am I wrong?
Most of the time, a catalytic event in our lives is what leads us to the decision to knock on the door of mental health professional. A breakup, the end of an important friendship, a great failure, or even a bad outburst, can make us realize that there are unresolved issues within us. Many times, especially in that first session where everything looks so new, all you need is to share what is bothering you but also to feel that the person sitting in front of you can understand you.
In the end, whether you have some specific questions you always wanted to ask a psychologist or not, it matters little. What matters is that you never stop exploring different aspects of yourself and evolving. In the words of Socrates, “the beginning of wisdom is search” and this is something worth remembering and applying in your daily life.